Oh motivation…a 10 letter word that may as well be a 4 letter word for me. (sigh) I suppose that’s not entirely true. I can motivate myself to get started on these awesome ideas I come up with, but it’s hard for me to hold on to them for very long. There’s all sorts of self-help advice that says if you do an activity x number of times it becomes a habit. Maybe that’s true. Sadly I generally take that x number of times as a goal to a stopping point. Yes, I know that totally defeats the principle. I’m a rebel, what can I say?
But there are so many things that I want to do/see/experience in this world/lifetime/minute; I think I tend to overwhelm myself at times. I see the birthdays ticking by and I can’t get past this panic that I’m not doing enough fast enough. It’s hard to remember to just breathe. I have this thing that I want to get all my living in as soon as I can, just in case it doesn’t last. I don’t want that to sound morbid, but none of us really know how much time we have to accomplish our goals in life. I’m not a huge YOLO person for a couple of reasons – 1) It’s like the lazy carpe diem and 2) No one really knows how many lives you can fit into a lifetime, but I know how many times in any lifetime you die. Again, morbid. Sorry, I’m not sorry. But I do agree with the principle behind the saying (maybe it should be YODO?) Anyway, I don’t sit around and fret about dying, but I do worry that I won’t be able to live as many lifetimes as I want. And to me that is a very sobering thought.
My other source of anxiety with living in the daily involves control and change. Two things my type A struggles with pretty much all the time. I get frustrated when I can’t control something in my daily world, so I circumvent this frustration (i.e., console myself) with the thought that it doesn’t matter because I can change the future. I seem to forget that each decision creates the future; ignoring the present isn’t actually the best way to deal with life. Dreams are amazingly wonderful things; daydreams, however, just tend to be distractions – a pacifier while waiting on the bottle.
I catch myself living for the weekends, daydreaming the weekdays away until I can be free – which I find so annoying! Life is supposed to be lived every day – not just Saturday and Sunday. There are definitely things I would like to change in my day-to-day life that I feel would help me accomplish the bigger goals, but I have to find the patience and the motivation to make those changes. Sometimes it’s hard to focus on the “mundane” everyday tasks that move me towards my larger, more exciting goal.
I get so caught up in the forest that I tend to ignore the trees; and those trees need attention. (By the way, this is one of my favorite analogies; I apologize if I abuse it.) I have to remember to plant, to water, to nurture in every possible way every one of those little trees. I may not be happy with the color or the leaf size or whatever, but the only way to change that is to plant different seeds – hybrids if you will. Daily seeds of happiness in the small things and the small changes.
So I suppose my motivation is like one of those large pictures made up of small photos. And my challenge is learning to appreciate and find encouragement in those small, every day photos. So, as I am a huge fan of lists, I propose to make a list of goals to work on daily with the idea being that this blog and you, my dear readers, will somehow hold me accountable. You’ll know the success of that idea by the follow up or lack thereof (smile).
- Find something satisfying in every day.
- Remember to be grateful for each experience, be it big or small.
- Cut back on the daydreaming and be more present in each daily scenario.
- Create a thought board with my bigger goals made by smaller pictures to remind myself that this is how we create our worlds.
- Take one small task that I’ve been trying to turn into a habit and do it.
- Focus on an area of my life I want to change and begin the steps of pursuit.
- Find activities to participate in that take place during the week.
- Put dates on my To Do list and stick with them.
- Breathe deep and let it be.
How about you guys – how/where do you find your motivation?? I need all the tips and tricks I can get, so please feel free to share!